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Lyndon


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At last! Someone assembled tips for not being creepy.

http://www.dontbecreepy.com/tips


to the creepy guys out there, read the following, and learn:


on social skills

Some geeks may have poor social skills because of Asperger's syndrome, an autism-spectrum disorder.

Social skills can be learned, but it may take a long time for them to be anything other than a foreign language.

Most non-Asperger's people don't have an extraordinarily deep interest in geek subjects. Their free time is limited, and they prefer to spend it doing things other than completely mastering the details of some thing.

Arrogance isn't attractive, and it's not necessary. Your friends don't need convincing, and your enemies won't believe you.

Ignorance is not stupidity.

Nothing is inherently obvious or intuitive. Things only seem obvious if they are familiar.

Being able to communicate your ideas clearly and persuasively in English is worth more than raw skill.

Politeness and respect are extremely powerful.

Tact is hard, because it feels like lying. But it's worth practicing.

Many people believe that how you feel about something is more important than what is true. You don't have to agree with this, but learning to deal with it is crucial.

on dating and creepiness

Creepy is weird with romantic intent.

Finding things about a person without their participation isn't normal, it's creepy.

Knowing things about someone isn't the same as knowing them.

If she likes you, then compliments flatter her. If she doesn't like you, compliments creep her out.

If she thinks you're creepy, the best thing you can do is leave her alone.

Most aspects of a relationship are improved through conversation.

Stages of a normal dating relationship:

  1. unknown
  2. strangers
  3. acquaintances
  4. friends
  5. dating
  6. boyfriend/girlfriend (exclusively dating)
  7. engaged
  8. married

Stages/types of relational intimacy:

  1. physical - looks, etiquette, and charisma
  2. aesthetic - arts, style, culture, and general compatibility
  3. recreational - shared interests, sports and hobbies
  4. intellectual - hopes, fears, opinions and beliefs
  5. spiritual - morality, ethics, shared existence and shared goals
  6. emotional - feelings, trust, security and safety
  7. sexual - touching and romance
  8. unconditional - love & support without expectation

on women

Females aren't necessarily worse at math and sciences, though if you tell them they are, they perform so.

Females can be friends with someone they're not attracted to.

Most females have been raised to prefer inaccuracy to impoliteness.

on pornography

It's quite possible that porn is bad for you. Many men are addicted to pornography. It seems to lessen sexual desire and attraction to real women.



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wow... those info are really useful... no wonder relationship doesn't seem to last these days...

people seem does not to follow the Stages of a normal dating relationship and Stages/types of relational intimacy, they tend to rush things so they skip some but very important details.

thanks mr. L! smile.gif

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hooray! i hope people read this and LIVE IT OUT. creepy or not creepy.

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these informations are really useful on building a relationship...

Stages of a normal dating relationship: unknown strangers acquaintances friends dating boyfriend/girlfriend (exclusively dating) engaged marriedi really do agreewith this...i do hope a certain someone will be able to read the info mr L posted in this thread...

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Thanks, Mr. L. This might lift the restraining order given to me (I'm kidding, of course)...

Very useful tips indeed... I learned a lot. =D



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nice thread... creeps!!!(just kidding, of course you all aren't, but sometimes, there is a hidden creep inside us wanting to come out)

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lei


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What makes you think creepy people will read and follow this???

i'd rather read tips on how to deal (or avoid) creepy people.. :p

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Hmm.. oo nga naman..

but how would you know if that person is creepy or not?

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Lei: It's better than not doing anything. It's the thought that counts. And as far as avoiding creepy people are concerned, there really is just one way: Run.

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awtts. tinatamaan ako...nabu2king ako.. creepy ako eh

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eastydie: trust me, you'll just feel it.. like goosebumps..

cow: running is too tiring.. and they would sometimes even chase! :S

azaka: pano mo naman nasabi?

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Pag may sumunod na taong creepy suntukin na lang XD.

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Ms lei: ano na lang ung gagawin? play dead and hope they will go away? hehehe

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wah bt nmn ganyan? wawa naman kaming mga creepy. T_T

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tenkouken: to creepy people, a punch is physical intimacy. ew

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Coolie, I might try one of those tips someday! ^^
Some people think I can be a bit creepy or mayeb weird. ^^;

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Ms. Lei: kaya ko po un nsabi kasi medyo anti-social po ako.. medyo nagiging introvert.

Nakakarelate po ako sa asperger's syndrome.

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pwd kayang dahil sa creepy ako minsan kaya iniiwan lagi aq ng girl pag tumagal?

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It is also how the person was raised (that's why a person's creepy). There are people who were raised by parents in a such a way that they turn out to be creepy. For example, when a visitor will come to the house, parents will tell the kids, "Go to your room, usapan ng mga matatanda."

Another factor is when kids were not allowed to improve their social skills in a practical manner, but instead criticized them severly or worse, parang takot ang parents na magkakamali ang bata socially (like, "mare, bakit ganyan ang anak mo?"). Napapahiya nag parents pag may nagbalitang kumare o kumpare that their kids are not socially refined (whatever it is called).

Thus, when the time comes that that kid becomes an adult, he thinks he's nice, but in reality, he's creepy. Why? Because his social skills were not trained in a practical (kasi nga naman, pag nagkamali socially yung bata, sa halip na turuan ng tama, the kid involved were shunned away from the social circle).

Creepiness, at times, is a by-product of how the kids were trained.

Still though, a fully grown person should be responsible to himself/herself. He/she should not blame it on other people why he/she's deemed to be creepy. Instead, he or she should find a way to improve his/her social skills. It may take long, but at least there should an effort to improve, di ba? :)

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I think like most things, creepiness is relative... It depends on the person's point of view

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above.gif i agree with your opinion. Kasi it depends also on a person's tolerance of things...and behavior.

Other people may find you sweet, others may find you creepy.
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Still though, as a human being, we are in a society.  one should make an effort to improve as a social being.

-- Edited by bugoytheman at 20:10, 2007-09-12

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Utterly Clueless wrote:

I think like most things, creepiness is relative... It depends on the person's point of view



 The only time this applies is when a creepy guy doesn't think he's creepy...


...and everyone else thinks he is.


Honestly, I got friends whose creep-o-meter sets off within minutes upon meeting a creepy guy.

So how will a guy know if he's creepy?

Find another guy who everyone else thinks is creepy.

If he doesn't think the other has creepy behavior,

then he himself is creepy.

 

 

 



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above.gif it's like "you can just feel that something is wrong"...

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^ It's not wrong; everyone just thinks it is because of whatever we label as "normal"; we don't kill anyone when we just ask another about someone else. (Don't we encourage that all the time as "tsismis"? :P)

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above.gif hmmmm, i'm listening...

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Azaka: If you are indeed anti-social, or an introvert, I don't that automatically makes you creepy.. In my experience, I would only notice that a person is creepy if he/she engages me in a conversation. People who don't speak to me, or shy looking are in an entirely different category in my opinion.

Utterly Clueless: If your exes thinks you're creepy, i don't think they would have agreed to be in a relationship with you in the first place. Why they broke up with you, only they can say. I agree that being creepy is relative to the person receiving the 'creepiness' because different people haven't different measurements or thresholds of what being creepy is.

Wuffie: How so?

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creepy.... hmmm.... i find it creepy that most girls that gets close to me falls for me...

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Lyndon


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can people post their creep experiences here? i might released a public service announcement re: creepy people.

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sure sounds good. I had a creepy experience in sm north. I was looking at some fhm mags wen a man talked to me and started asking my name where I live and started following me, good thing I lost him...

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you should have read cosmo instead, so that women with low self-esteem would talk to you and follow you around.

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